Valentine’s Day is a great time for couples in love, but don’t let tradition get in the way of romance. Here are 10 ways to make the day sexy and romantic
Think outside the chocolate box
If you’re devoted to the “sweets for the sweet” tradition, however, there are plenty of ways to satisfy your beloved’s sweet tooth without relying on the cocoa bean for inspiration. Head to your local French bakery for a selection of bite-sized fruit tarts, mix up a batch of homemade cinnamon rolls, or treat your Valentine to a dozen heart-shaped sugar cookies. If you want to skip the chocolates but still like the idea of offering your special someone candy on February 14, give that old theme a new twist with a juicy caramel apple or some old-fashioned saltwater taffy.
Give the gifts your Valentine wants—and you can afford
If you’re thinking that flowers are routine, jewelry is expensive, and candy is predictable when it comes to Valentine’s Day, never mind. Chances are your Valentine is more interested in receiving a gift with strong emotional content than one with a big price tag or a firm link to tradition:
- Look through your photo collection and frame one that captures a special moment the two of you shared, or choose several images to create a photo montage or a slideshow of your relationship highlights.
- Write a love letter, in your own hand, that spells out all the ways that loving and being loved by your Valentine enriches your life.
- Recreate your first date, or another treasured moment from your past as a couple, and tell your beloved what that memory means to you.
Perform a grand romantic gesture
There are many sweet and simple things you can do to please your true love on Valentine’s Day, but nothing is as certain to capture your Valentine’s heart, and attention, as a grand romantic gesture.
- Head home early so you can have dinner ready, candles burning, music playing softly—and be wearing something sexy—when your beloved walks through the door for an evening he’ll always remember.
- Surprise your Valentine at work with flowers and a small gift, and then whisk her away to a mysterious destination where you can share a champagne sunset or a couples massage.
Remember to do the little things
Grand romantic gestures are great, and they can be a meaningful part of your relationship, but nothing can replace the little things you do to demonstrate your love. Measured by their importance to your partner, some of those little things may be bigger than they first appear:
- Listen actively – Encourage your partner to share his feelings and tell stories about his life, and then ask questions that show you’re really interested and listening closely.
- Give sincere compliments – If your partner loses a few pounds, changes her hair or does a great job on a project at work, make sure you notice and praise her for it.
- Be nice – Don’t reserve all of your random acts of kindness for strangers. Look for opportunities to treat, pamper or delight your partner unexpectedly.
Show how well you know your partner
Everyone likes a little romance now and then, but what we crave is emotional intimacy and being loved by someone who really knows us.
This Valentine’s Day, make your knowledge of your partner the centerpiece of your celebration—from planning the perfect dinner or making just the right romantic gesture to taking special care to please her in bed.
Understanding what makes your partner tick, and demonstrating that knowledge every day, is the surest path to an intimate and loving relationship.
Make emotional pledges for the long term
Valentine’s Day is a time to renew and celebrate your feelings for each other and to indulge in a little extra romance, but there’s no reason to limit yourself and your partner to just one day. Romance works best when it is firmly rooted in the trust and commitment of genuine love.
To make Valentine’s Day really special, use the occasion to offer emotional pledges to each other that will make your relationship stronger and richer every day—and for years to come.
Be a better you—for your partner
We all have a few things about ourselves we’d like to improve, so why wait? Your partner may love you in spite of your shortcomings, but there’s no reason to make that any more challenging than it has to be.
Some sage once said that having a good relationship is less about finding the right person and more about being the right person.
For Valentine’s Day this year, perform a self-diagnosis to assess your good and bad qualities and commit to making yourself a better person—if not for yourself, then for your partner.
Start the romance before you get home
To make your Valentine’s Day even sexier this year, make foreplay a part of the romance while you and your partner are still out on the town. Flirting, teasing and touching—and the anticipation they ignite before you get home—are the surest ways to heat things up once you’re behind closed doors.
Any public displays of affection that won’t embarrass you or your partner are fair game. Just remember how you felt and acted when you and your partner were falling in love, and you’ll know what to do.
Try a few new moves
Sex can start to feel a little routine after you and your partner have been together for a while, no matter how passionately you love each other. The solution to that problem is change: a change of technique, a change of venue, maybe even a figurative change of partner through role playing.
You don’t have to re-enact the entire Kama Sutra to spice up your love life. Sometimes just a few small changes can make all the difference. Try a position that’s new for both of you, get creative during foreplay, or find a location that adds an extra thrill to your lovemaking. Some couples enjoy dressing up in costumes or taking on various character identities and acting out steamy scenarios.
Making your sex life more adventurous is a gift that you and your partner can give to each other on Valentine’s Day—and all year long.
Sample some sexy products
Another way to make your lovemaking less predictable and more exciting is to sample some of the great sexual aids that are available to couples.
You don’t have to push beyond your kinkiness comfort level to enjoy such pleasures. Try some mood music to enhance the experience for you both. Use a blindfold to help your partner focus on her sense of touch, and then break out some massage lube and give her a slow, sensual and increasingly sexy massage.
From MSN.com/ By Sharon O' Brien/ Posted by Mags
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