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Sunday, February 9, 2014

25 Romantic Ways To Say 'I Love You'

Use this handy cheat sheet to expand your romantic vocabulary!

Marriage and relationship experts agree on the importance of communicating love to our partners often and in a variety of forms. In his New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman makes a strong case for spouses learning to communicate love to one another in many forms. Not the least of these is through the spoken and written word.
"I love you." It's vital these three important words be conveyed regularly and often to keep a relationship healthy and strong. How To Say "I Love You" Without Words

Throughout the almost 30 years of their marriage, Jim and Carrie Gordon — authors of The Intimate Couple and The Romantic Couple websites — have given and received hundreds of love letters and romantic cards to and from each other. Carrie asserts that Jim is a true romantic and has a keen ability to include romantic phrases in the love letters and greeting cards he gives to her. His use of romantic expressions clearly communicates "I love you" to Carrie!
Recently, Carrie sifted through her growing collection of cards and love letters from Jim to compile a list of loving words, romantic phrases and expressions of passion. We're including her partial list here as a cheat sheet for guys to use!

Refer to this handy list of romantic sayings the next time you're looking for a special phrase to personalize a purchased greeting card, add variety to a love letter or email, include in a text, write on a bathroom mirror or
use in a note tucked inside a book. 3 Love Lessons From 'The Hunger Games'
1. You, sweetheart, are my one and only.
2. You take my breath away.
3. Lovingly yours.
4. With you, forever won't be too long.
5. To the world's best wife!
6. When I see you, I think "Good job, God!"
7. You are the love of my life!
8. It's awesome to spend my life with you!
9. Love you, sweetheart! Learn To Say 'I Love You' In Over 100 Languages
10. I treasure you.
11. I adore you.
12. Sweetheart, you stir my soul!
13. I'm head over heels for you.
14. I cherish you.
15. You turn me on!
16. Life is incomplete without you.
17. To the one I love:
18. We were made for each other!
19. You're my soulmate and the love of my life. Advice: Is Finding A Soul Mate Unrealistic?
20. You're one hot babe!
21. I'm looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together!
22. Sweetheart, you add peace, subtract sorrow and multiply joy in my life!
23. I can't even conceive of life without you.
24. The best thing in life is spelled Y-O-U!
25. You, my love, are my inspiration.

From: Youtango.com/ Posted by Mags

Saturday, February 1, 2014

The Types of Women Men Want to Date-- Are You One of Them?

Miss Sweet

Miss sweet is a woman who's positive, content with her life, always upbeat -- and just a blast to be around. She's a genuine person without a bitch bone in her body. She's always truly happy to see you and you find yourself looking forward to spending time with her. Miss Sweet is usually snapped out of the dating market right away, so they're pretty rare. But if you can find one, you're got a real treasure in your hand.

Miss Equality

This type of woman is a true feminist-- not one of the radical man haters, or the hypocritical pseudo feminist who think that equality means "I demand equal rights and an equal salary, but a man still has to pay for me" The Miss Equalitys of the world genuinely like men, and understand that equality means equality across the board, from holding the door open to fighting on the front lines. The believe that a should be 50/50 partnership, and are more than willing to shoulder their half of the responsibilities and dating expenses-- just because its the right thing to do.

Miss Sexual

You should be so lucky to encounter one of these! Miss Sexual loves men and loves sex-- and makes no bones about it. She's not selling it, she is not suing it as a tool to manipulate men-- she just naturally craves it. Miss Sexual is not to be confused with a nymphomaniac, who suffers from psychological problems-- rather, she has somehow bypassed the female societal training of autioning of the use of their vagina to the highest bidder. For this reason, most other women hate her, because she's giving it away free of charge. But men lover because she's a free spirit who's actually honest about her sex drive, very rare, but worth searching the ends of the earth for.

Miss Best Friend

Closely aligned with Miss Sweet, Miss Best Friend is another joy to be around. She's the kind of woman you're totally in sync with-- you like the same things, watch the same TV shows, enjoy going to the same places . You can spend five minutes with her and think you've known her for years. She is always on your side, laugh at all your jokes and calls you just to say "hi" because she genuinely misses you. She's just great to hang with. A word of warning though-- Miss Best Friend, you have to make your sexual interest known from day one because if she gets it into her head that you are going to be "just friends" its always impossible to change her mind.

Miss Straightforward

This is the type of woman who knows how to communicate. With Miss Straightforward, there are no, no expecting men to be mind readers, no behavior based on ridiculous, female- biased advice from articles in Cosmo or the rules. Miss Straightforward will pick up the phone and ask you out. She will do what she says she will do-- not say one thing and do just the opposite. Although she may be blunt at times, at least you'll know where you stand and you'll never have to spend hours trying to decode contradictory or emotion- based female behavior.

Miss Independent

This is a good woman to find if you don't have a lot of time to invest in a relationship or you're the type of guy who needs a lot of space. Miss Independent has a real life of her own and is happily going on her won positive direction. She's the type who wants a man in her life. And she is certainly isn't looking for man to solve all her problems or blame when things don't go her way.

Miss No Pressure

While many woman are chomping at the bit to get married, Miss No Pressure hasn't fallen prey to any such agenda. She's happy just to be with you. So you don't get any "Where is our relationship going? " or hint- dropping about the future or window- shopping at the jewelry store. She may want to get married at some point, but she is in no hurry-- she thinks that if it happens, it will just happen naturally.

Miss Secure

Miss Secure accepts herself as she is and is comfortable with her good points, as well as her bad. And she feels the same about you . Miss Secure doesn't need constant attention to shore up a sagging ego, has tons of self esteem and is always going in her own positive direction.

Miss Personality

Miss Personality is a great find. She might not be the first prize in a beauty contest (although she could be), but her intelligence, wit, and sparkling presence just light up the room, and she draws people like a magnet. Her personality is so charming that is easily overcomes the deficiencies she might have in the looks department, just because she is so great with you.

Miss Low Maintenance

The rarest of the rare, Miss Low Maintenance is the most atypical of modern women. She really doesn't care about how much money you have-- she just likes you for yourself and not for what she can take from you. She's likely to be a true feminist, and will gladly pay her share of the dating expenses. If you can find a Miss Low Maintenance, hang on to her for dear life!

Miss Right for You

A lot of guys choose women who are "arm candy" -- good looking trophy girlfriends who bolster their status among other men or counteract their own insecurities. That's all well and good, but if you find a woman who makes you happy, regardless of looks, age or social status-- or what any other guy thinks-- then you have definitely won at the mating game.

From Ivillage.com/ Posted by

Friday, January 17, 2014

Secrets Never to Keep in a Relationship

If you've been hiding any of this stuff, it's time to fess up.

"Secretly spending and trying to hide the purchases is a big indicator that there’s not a lot of trust in your relationship,” says Ian Kerner, a relationship expert and author of Passionista. Try to figure out why you’re not disclosing what you buy: Do you feel that your decisions are being ridiculed? Does your husband tend to control the majority of the money or your relationship overall? Or do you have a problem with compulsive spending? Then, come clean. Explain that you know you spent too much, but that there's a reason you didn't share—for example, you haven't felt comfortable expressing your needs in general recently. Use this mistake as an opportunity to get on the same page about not just money, but also about how to effectively communicate and stand by your wants and needs. Kerner then suggests devising a budget in which you both allocate funds for personal discretionary spending, which will help set you up as financial equals. And make an agreement that any time you’re considering making a purchase over a set amount, say $100, you’ll discuss it with each other before you plunk down your credit card.

Telling your hubs that you’ve been faking it since giving birth six months ago would downright devastate him. Since he likely thinks he’s been doing a great job, avoid throwing grenade into your relationship and instead approach him with a new fantasy that you’d like try. “Have a vision about what would excite you and then present the sexy wish,” says Kerner. Suggest using a vibrator together, trying a new position, or simply locking your bedroom door if you’re worried about the kids and having a hard time concentrating. It's natural that passion ebbs and flows in a relationship—and just because it's on the low-end right now doesn't mean that situation's permanent.

You and your husband had a disagreement. Instead of letting bygones be bygones, you make a derogatory comment about him behind his back—to your kid. And this may not be the first time you’ve bashed your man in front of your children. “Forming alliances with your kids not only creates a wedge in your marriage, but it can also cause anxiety for kids, who you’re burdening with issues that they shouldn’t have to know about and simply can’t handle,” says Kerner. The best way to resolve the situation is to open up a three-way conversation. Tell your husband what you’ve been up to and that you recognize it’s a problem. Then have a conversation with your kid letting them know that dumping on their dad was a mistake and that it won't happen again. Either on your own or with the help of a therapist, try to figure out the root of your negative emotions, and work to tell your husband—not another person outside of your marriage—when you’re angry with him.

It’s one thing to go out with some of your friends and have a couple of cocktails, but if you’re drinking to self-soothe, there’s a good chance you might have a problem. “Drinking and hiding it is a classic pattern of substance abuse,” says Kerner. If you think an issue is starting to develop, talk through your concerns with your husband. Are you lonely or bored with parenthood? Do you need to change your career?" Assure him that you’re asking for his help because you don’t like what’s happening,” says Kerner. If opening up about the problem alone isn't prompting you to cut back, Alcoholics Anonymous can help figure out next steps.

It started as a fight about who should come home to relieve the babysitter and ended in you both taking a couple of cheap shots. But the mud he slung is still smarting—and every time you think about it, your blood boils. Over time, bottling up your emotions creates resentment, which can lead to feeling perpetually angry with your partner. Ultimately, if you don’t express yourself, you’ll just lash out at each other and say hurtful things that you really don’t mean. “It’s not bad to argue—fighting is a form of communication—but you have to be constructive,” says Kerner. “As a couple, you need to learn how to complain about solvable problems instead of criticizing each other.” Start by fessing up to why you’re still upset and work to clear the air. Then move on by developing guidelines for how to argue more productively, such as instigating a no-name-calling rule.

Some not-so-classy pictures from a spring-break fling have found their way onto Facebook. Or that time you got arrested in college all of a sudden popped up on a Google search of your name. It’s not easy, but it’s better to fill your husband in before he discovers this stuff on his own. “When you don’t share your past experiences as they come up, you miss an opportunity to get your partner’s support and feel closer,” says Sue Johnson, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and author of the upcoming book Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships. Say something like, “It’s hard to tell you this, but I’ve recently been reminded of something happened a long time ago, and it’s really bothering me. Can you listen to the story?”

“We usually get ‘extreme’ in response to stress—which is just the time when you should turn to someone you love for support,” says Johnson. “They can help us find our emotional balance.” Since food issues are potentially damaging to those around you too, you shouldn’t face them alone. “While it might seem like handling it on your own is the responsible thing to do, your partner is likely to become hurt and angry that you didn’t share or confide in him,” adds Johnson. She suggests broaching the subject by saying, “I have been restricting myself around food a lot, and this seems to have a life of its own now. I’m worried that I don’t know what to do. Maybe I just need to share it with you.” But if you suspect you have or may be developing an eating disorder, merely speaking with a loved one isn’t going to fix things. Consider getting professional help by contacting the National Eating Disorders Association.

“Depression interferes with your ability to engage with others and tune into them,” says Johnson. “It will definitely affect your ability to be a really loving parent or partner. But we’ve found in couples therapy that an important step in coming out of depression is connecting with your partner.” So tell your husband that you’ve been sinking into a bad place, and that you don’t know what to do about it. Share your fear surrounding talking about your feelings—that it’s scary because you don’t want your guy to think less of you or see you as someone who can’t cope. “In the best relationships, people don’t have to be perfect—but they do have to be present,” says Johnson. And that’s hard to do if you’re hiding your feelings of vulnerability. While it’s important to tell your man if you’ve been down in the dumps, it’s vital to seek professional help if the black cloud doesn’t seem to lift on its own. Find a therapist through the American Psychological Association.

From: Redbook.com / Posted by Mags