13 Reason to Stop Looking for Mr. Right

It's Time to Live Your Life!

Your life begins now!
You’ve tried the dating scene. Men are found in the workplace, in your apartment building, and right across the street, but they aren’t even close to what you’re looking for. It seems that finding the “right guy” is harder than you thought it would be. Frustrated yet?

Please don't misunderstand. Marriage can be a wonderful thing. Dating can be a wonderful thing. But keep in mind that being single can be a wonderful thing too. It’s just the idea of being content with where you are in life. Being happy with what you have at this present moment.
Sounds good, but it’s easier said than done. Check out 13 ways that you can enjoy this time of being single, focus on your life right now, and stop your quest to find Mr. Right.

You have the right to be content. Right here. Right now.

Keeping your heart happy with what you have right now can make a big difference in how you live your life. It doesn’t mean that you don’t work towards future goals, but you shouldn’t spend too much time pining over not having something (like a relationship). Chances are if you are a happy person now, you will be a happy person when you are in a relationship. It’s the idea of being happy with what you have

Spend time growing your confidence.

Do you want to finish school? Learn to play an instrument? Write a book? Take time to develop the goals you want to achieve. This time of singlehood is your own. If you eventually would get married your time won’t be your own so much anymore. So enjoy this time of your life when you can do what YOU want to do!

Take that trip you've been talking about.

Whether you want to explore a place that’s 100 miles or 10,000 miles away – now is the time to do it. Grab your best girlfriend and pack your bags on what could be the trip of a lifetime. You don’t need Mr. Right around to enjoy the beauty of the world.

Reach out to see how others are hurting.

Staying focused on finding that right guy can be dangerous because you can lose a sense of reality. In the real world people are hurting because of grief, abuse, and illness. Take time to offer a kind word to others or help those who need a friend. You’ll find that when you give to others you’ll receive a lot more in return.

Focus on your career.

Thinking of starting a business? Trying to work for that corner office? If you’re single then you have a lot of time to devote to your job. Use the time you have right now to focus on that promotion. If you eventually have a family it will be more difficult to climb up that corporate ladder!

Don't put your identity in another person.

It’s dangerous to tie your own identity so fiercely with another person because that’s exactly what they are: a person. Your significant other would be just another human being with faults, annoying habits, and will make mistakes just like everyone else. Avoid putting your whole identity in that. This choice can be spiritual, too. For example, if you are a Christian that means that you find your identity in God instead. This can make all the difference in the world when it comes to how you treat yourself.

Work on the relationships you already have.

For some reason there’s this thought that finding Mr. Right is the big relationship that you should focus tons of your attention on. At the same time though you have brothers, parents, friends, sisters, and coworkers surrounding you that deserve your attention too. Focus on these relationships and find happiness in the people you already love. A kind heart is one that has been practicing love for a long time!

Volunteer and give back.

You're free at the moment to go where you want, when you want. Check out the places where you can volunteer at an animal shelter or a soup kitchen (just to name a few). You can easily be of service to others - so use this opportunity wisely!

Remember that you aren't alone.

There are a lot of single women in the world! You aren’t the only one who might feel lonely every now and then. Don't dwell in your sorrows. Remember, you could be a role model to younger people just by the way you live your life.

Know that confidence is attractive.

Men can be attracted to all different kinds of things in women. One of these attributes can be confidence. Men enjoy seeing a woman that is happy where she is and with what she’s doing. This can obviously be very difficult for some women. But take care of yourself. You deserve to be happy - never forget that.

You can eat strange things for dinner.

Ice cream? Merlot? That strange new item you’ve been dying to try from the nearby deli? Since you aren’t cooking for anyone else it’s time to fill your grocery cart with all of your favorite foods! Discover different things to eat – and be sure to cook whatever you like best.

Girls' Night Out can be any night.

Which women have inspired you in your own life? Get to know them better! Enjoy your time of being with the girls. Your single years can be a great time with girlfriends that you might not have the chance to have again.

There's no guarantee of finding Mr. Right - and that's okay.

Don’t expect that he’ll come along if you just wait long enough. Some people get married in life and some don’t. That’s just the way it is. But just remember to protect your own heart and happiness. There will be lonely and sad moments, but be careful not to dwell on them. This is YOUR time and YOUR life to enjoy. Get out there and celebrate today!

Written by Jana Melpolder/ From Beliefnet Posted by Mags