6 Bad Reasons to Stay Married

ThThink staying with your spouse is the right thing to do? Think again!

Think staying with your spouse is the right thing to do? Think again!

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These days, a lot of marriages in divorce, for any number of reasons. And for every divorce, there’s probably at least one other marriage that has survived a bad patch of some sort. Plenty of couples choose to stay together and work it out rather than head down the divorce road. There are plenty of good reasons to make that choice, and if both partners are willing to put in the work, then I firmly believe that our divorce rate could be a whole lot lower than it is. Though there are many reasons to choose to stay married, there are also plenty of bad reasons to stay in an unhappy marriage. Here are a few of those reasons.

The final word is that you should stay in a marriage because you want to and both you and your partner are willing to do the work involved, not because you believe you should.

1. For the kids.It used to be that many, many couples stayed in unhappy marriages “for the kids.” This can be one of the worst reasons to choose to stay married to someone. After all, how is having two unhappy parents who don’t get along good for children in any way? There are plenty of us who grew up in homes with married parents who fought way too often; chances are, we would have been a whole lot happier had our parents made the choice to live apart. Having two happy parents in separate homes is a whole lot better for children than to have two unhappy parents living together.

2. For convenience or financial security.Living with someone else has certain perks -- an extra set of hands to help out with housework and meals; someone to split the mortgage with. Suddenly being single can prove to be a practical hardship in terms of household chores and finances. But be assured that plenty of people find ways to make it work on their own, and if you really want to, you will as well.

3. Because you promised.
Even though those marriage vows said “until death do us part,” sometimes we need to let that promise go. Staying married only because you made a promise to someone else and for no other reason isn’t enough to build a solid, healthy relationship.

4. Guilt.
You’re worried about what would happen to your spouse if you left. Or maybe you’re worried about what other people might think. Or maybe you worry that it will be too tough on your kids. Guilt is a bad reason to make any important life decision, much less marriage. No one wants be married to a martyr.

5. Fear.
Going out on your own after being partnered with someone is a frightening thing. Single life after you’ve been married, with all of the unknown factors attached is scary. Facing our fears is often a way to become stronger. Sometimes you’ve got to just look fear in the face and do whatever it is you need to do anyhow.

6. Loneliness.

Singledom is a lonely prospect, particularly if you’ve been married for any length of time. Staying with your partner only because you’d be too lonely on your own is one of the weakest reasons out there for staying in a marriage. Focus on the other relationships in your life — with your friends, your children, your family, your co-workers — and you will find that there are plenty of people in your life out there to help and support you.

From: www.Parentsociety.com/ Posted by Mags