Bird, Bees and Preschoolers
You may think three is too soon to begin talking about sex with your child. However, by 3, your child has already had plenty of messages about sexuality. Sexuality is more than just puberty and intercourse. From the time our children are born, we're sharing our values and attitudes about sexuality. When we cuddle our babies we are teaching them how good it feels to be touched and loved. When we choose pink or blue, trains or dolls, we are sending messages about male-female roles and expectations.
Educating about sexuality includes teaching about anatomy, relationships, respect, body image, self-esteem, values, decision-making and gender roles. It is typical for 3- and 4- year-olds to be interested in the differences between adult's and children's bodies and boys and girls. Playing doctor, pretending to be mommy or daddy and playing dressed-up are common types of play from which young children learn about the world. Children should not me made to feel guilty about being interested in their own bodies.
To Instill Healthy Ideas about Sexuality:
* Teach proper names for body parts. by using words like "penis" and "vagina," children learn to respect their bodies and not be ashamed of private areas.
*Let your child know your are available to answer his questions. Repeat information until he understands, and have many discussions about sexuality. Decide about the information you and your partner will share, how you will answer questions and the family values you impart.
*Recognize it is alright to day, "I don't know." There are many good resources for you and your child to read and discuss together. Start at the library.
*Realize that your child may catch you off guard. You can say you want to answer her questions, but need time to think of the best explanation. Be sure to get back to her. Never just avoid a question.
* Respect your children's privacy and teach them to respect others' privacy.
Posted by: Georgie
Credit: Kerri Kreh Reda, child development educator.
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